The Importance of Proper Deportment

 

Proper deportment, often overlooked in today's fast-paced world, is crucial to personal and professional success. It encompasses a person's manners, behaviour, and overall conduct in various social and professional settings. While the specific expectations may vary across cultures and contexts, the underlying principle remains the same: presenting oneself with respect, courtesy, and consideration for others.

One of the primary reasons why proper deportment is essential is its impact on interpersonal relationships. When individuals exhibit good manners and etiquette, they create a positive and welcoming atmosphere. This fosters trust, respect, and cooperation among peers, colleagues, and acquaintances. Conversely, poor deportment can damage relationships, leading to misunderstandings, conflicts, and a negative reputation.

Proper deportment is instrumental in career advancement and has social benefits. Employers often value employees who possess good manners, professionalism, and a positive attitude. Such individuals are more likely to be perceived as reliable, trustworthy, and competent. Furthermore, proper deportment can enhance one's ability to communicate effectively, negotiate deals, and build strong professional networks.

Moreover, proper deportment can contribute to personal well-being. When individuals practice good manners and etiquette, they are more likely to feel confident, respected, and valued. This can boost self-esteem and overall happiness. Additionally, proper deportment can help individuals avoid embarrassing situations and maintain a positive image.

In conclusion, proper deportment is a vital skill that can profoundly impact personal and professional success. By exhibiting good manners, etiquette, and consideration for others, individuals can build strong relationships, advance their careers, and enhance their overall well-being. While the specific expectations may vary across cultures and contexts, the underlying principle remains the same: presenting oneself with respect, courtesy, and a positive attitude.

Really?!?! - Examples of Customer Interactions

We have a long way to go when we are going to be talking about customer service. The thing is I'm making reference to as a region, not any one island. We are in serious trouble if we're to be globally competitive.

To get an idea of what I mean, have a look at the following scenarios.

• While being served at a restaurant attached to a hotel, the server at the table was more than a little inexperienced in her role as a waitress. It seemed like the tables of customers were a bother to her and it showed in her attitude. She got orders wrong, spilled the food, and when serving wine actually created a storm in the wine glass with the sound effects of thunder. The glass was noisily placed on the table with the wine sloshing around inside the bowl of the glass. She didn't know who the party comprised of, neither did she care. 
• Another restaurant and bar attached to a hotel, the male server on this occasion tried to communicate mentally, he came up to the inside of the bar where a large party was seated, put his hands in both pockets and hoped the beverage orders would in some way make their way to his head. He carried an attitude since he was witnessed being taken to task for the poorly concocted drinks he made and tried to serve. An opportunity to correct/improve his night and those of the patrons forever gone. 
• The taxi driver who is anxious to bring you from the airport so he can get a fare and complete his daily work by midday. Reeked of perspiration, admittedly it was a hot day, and when asked about how to get from the hotel to a particular destination suggest it was in walking distance. When the trip took place later in the day, it was a 15-minute trek up and down steep winding roads. Really? Leaving a card would not mean that you would be called again, especially since you don't know your own country. Broken trust is not easily repaired. 

All experiences were not unpleasant, but for those making an effort, we can only encourage them to continue doing so. They are the difference makers. We have met some people that though untrained, had outstanding personalities that made them a joy to interact with on each occasion. You actually looked forward to seeing them and though you had to spend money, you realized the value of doing so.

Perhaps our myopic view of who is our customer, often emphasized by the tourism industry has come home to roost. The old definitions which so clearly depicted what a tourist looks like have created a callousness in our minds as a region, making us numb to the realities of the real hospitality. Dulling our senses where we miss opportunities to serve right before us, and in many cases losing earnings that those who require service would be more than willing to pay us for.

It's time that we move beyond the service for a reward, and rekindle our values of hospitality where we are really nice to our guests, where ever they are from. Remembering individuals and not looking at them as niches, targets, and all the other terms that marketing has allowed us to label them. People the world over want to be made to feel special and valued. Often they don't get it at home, which they work so hard to maintain year round.

No Experience Required...

Throughout working life, there is always an emphasis on experience. Never mind the rush for qualifications, experience always seems to win in the end. We've often heard of the stories where experience and qualifications are played off against each other.

Thinking, as I often do, I realized that there are some things that require no experience to be successful. People advance in their careers almost daily with these attributes and they often stay within these careers for a long time.

What am I writing about? Here are a couple examples:

• Bad manners
• Disgusting attitudes 
• Poor work ethic
• Inappropriate behavior 
• Poor deportment 
• No dedication and commitment 
• Lack of hygiene 
• Unhealthy practices 
• No ethics
• The list can be endless

Yet even though these qualities are often discussed, they still find a way into our organizations though they are never shown on the workers' CV. We have highly advanced management education, still the ability to detect these characteristics before they enter the organization is elusive or these attributes have upgraded their stealth. 

It then brings into question, how these unwanted characteristics infiltrate our organizations so easily. Would love to get your thoughts and feedback.